Phillips Exeter Academy

Belonging

At Opening Assembly each year, I tell all our students — new and returning — the same three things: “You can do the work. You will make lifelong friends. Absolutely, you belong here.” These are the three things I wanted to know and would have appreciated hearing as a new lower so many years ago. Of the three, a sense of belonging is arguably the most important, because that is the foundation for thriving inside and outside the classroom and making lifelong friends.

Every student at Exeter should have a strong sense of belonging. The responsibility to make this a reality is embraced by all the adults in our community. In recent years, we have worked hard to strengthen how we welcome, support and celebrate our students across all backgrounds, experiences and identities. Examples are too numerous to list here, but they include new fall orientation programs, expanded recognition of different faith traditions and ethnic holidays in our school calendar, more culturally diverse food offerings, stronger affiliation of day students with dormitories, and improved training of student leaders in how to support new and younger students.

Our need-blind admissions policies also support a strong sense of belonging for our students. These policies and our commitment to meeting the full demonstrated need of all families are grounded in our mission and commitment to youth from every quarter, and are essential to preserving our ability to attract middle-income families as well as families with the greatest need. We have 35 more students on financial aid this year than last and anticipate that the financial aid census will continue to grow in the years ahead. The diversity of our student body is a defining strength of our school that propels our students’ learning and growth.

Our commitment to attracting and supporting diverse faculty and staff is also essential to fostering a strong sense of belonging for our students. This commitment extends beyond race and includes all forms of diversity represented in our student body. We are hiring excellent people across a wide range of backgrounds and experiences who want to teach and work in a boarding school environment and are committed to supporting the learning, growth and holistic development of every student.

Our students also contribute to strengthening their own sense of belonging by how they support and encourage each other. Recently I attended the presentation of a senior project by a student who had designed and built a laptop computer that matched the functionalities of the most expensive laptops on the market. His presentation was outstanding (and way over my head), yet even more impressive was the standing room only crowd of at least 50 students who had come to hear and cheer his presentation in Phelps Science Center.

This is typical of how students support one another across all arenas and activities. We see this when students hug each other in the lobby of the Goel Center for Theater and Dance after a performance, when they rush the court after a volleyball or basketball victory, when they loudly cheer each other’s accomplishments at Prize Day assembly and graduation, and in countless other ways. This support translates directly to a sense of belonging.

I hope you enjoy reading in this issue about our two graduates who were recently named Rhodes scholars. This is on a par with our two recent grand prize winners in the Regeneron Science Talent Search, who were featured in previous issues of the Bulletin. These are remarkable individual achievements. Yet they are also the product of the very special learning environment at Exeter, and they reflect how our students find joy in their collaborative learning and support each other in the pursuit of their passions. In that sense, these are group achievements that reflect the importance of belonging for all our students.

A few days after Opening Assembly one year, a senior approached me at Senior Sunrise in the stadium — a tradition introduced during COVID — and told me, “Mr. Rawson, every year at Opening Assembly when you tell me that I belong here, it means a lot to me.” That was the most important meeting I had that day, and there is no more important work that we do every day here at Exeter.

This letter was first published in the winter 2025 issue of The Exeter Bulletin.

David Hamlin Arnold: A Memorial Minute

Trustees Talk: The future is now

Genetics of cancer

Math at work, the Harkness way

Calculated fun

Neil Chowdhury: Why Exeter?

Neil Chowdhury

Why Exeter?

I had heard it’s a great place to grow both academically and socially, and that there was a big community of people interested in math and science.

Harkness

I came to Exeter for the high-quality content that I would get from the teachers, but what I found was that the students here help you learn just as much as the teachers. In math classes, and even in Math Club, we solve problems collaboratively. Oftentimes we might come to class not having the solution to one of the homework problems, but together as a class we’ll put the pieces together and eventually get to the solution. Harkness is a really important part of my math classes.

Adult support

I’m grateful for all the support I’ve received from everyone. For my ninth- and 10th-grade year, my adviser was Mr. Hutchins, who works in Admissions. Whenever I needed anything, he would be there to help me. I could just call or text him.

Personal growth

When I arrived on campus, I was shy and not really comfortable talking to strangers. But as I participated in Harkness conversations, it felt more natural to interact with other people and talk to them. The skills that Exeter has taught me in terms of communication — Harkness, being respectful and listening to one another — that’s one of the biggest ways I’ve grown.

Competitor

I participate in math competitions through Math Club, and I’m learning about a lot of different types of competitive math competitions. We have individual and team competitions where you get some time to solve a set of problems and your score is based on how many you answer correctly. The competitions are really engaging. And you can see where you are and how you can get better over time.

Climate science

One of the biggest challenges facing the world is climate change and the inaction of our government. The younger generations, we’re going to have to step up to solve that issue. We’ll need to be innovating and creating legislation to solve a problem that big. Exeter has, through climate action days and also curriculum, inspired us to think about this issue and about solutions. It’s something that I’m really interested in. I can see myself being a climate scientist or advocate someday.

Advice for prospective students

If you’re looking for a place to interact with people from all over the world and engage with a new culture, and grow academically and socially, and gain some mental toughness, you should consider coming to Exeter.

A Guided Tour of Bill Jordan’s Classroom

Bill Jordan stands in classroom next to Harkness table.
Variety of colorful political pins hang on cork board.
The Political Classroom book stacked on a desk.
Ballot card hanging on classroom wall
Teacher holds sticker that reads "I could be wrong"

Drawing on experience

Serving up history